The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist Who Understands You.
In today’s fast-paced world, taking care of our mental health is more important than ever. Just as we seek medical help for physical ailments, addressing our emotional and psychological well-being is crucial. Therapy can play a vital role in this process, offering support, guidance, and tools for personal growth and healing. Whether you’re facing a specific issue or simply want to improve your overall mental health, choosing the right therapist is key. This guide will help you navigate that journey.
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What to think about before you start looking for a therapist
Start by considering logistics:
Remote or in-person: Most importantly, you feel safe and have the space to feel comfortable while talking to your therapist. To choose between these two options, ask yourself: Do I have a private space to call from? What is more convenient? Do I feel more comfortable connecting virtually or in person? Does my provider offer flexibility between both options? Which environment aligns best with my therapeutic goals
Location & travel time: If you decide to look for a therapist in person, it is important to be realistic about how this will fit into your schedule. Is the therapist’s office conveniently located? Consider how you will get to their office and how long it will take.
Availability for sessions: Does the therapist have appointment times that fit your schedule? Consistency is important, so make sure you can commit to regular sessions. Some therapists are accommodating and can schedule different times each week for those with jobs that have variable schedules. If you need a therapist available outside business hours or flexible with switching times, ask about their availability before scheduling your intake appointment.
Availability between sessions: Some therapists offer an emergency number and the option to text them between sessions. Depending on your needs, this can be really valuable, so make sure to ask about it during your intake appointment if it is important to you. Alternatively, they may offer resources you can reach out to between sessions, which can be very useful if something happens and you need to talk to someone.
Next, decide how you are going to pay for care:
Do you need to use your insurance? Or can you pay out-of-pocket? If you need to use your insurance, start by verifying the name of your insurance carrier and then locating your insurance card. If you cannot find your physical insurance card, most insurance plans give online accounts to their members that you can use to look up your benefits. When in doubt, call your insurance and ask for help! Make sure you ask your insurance what benefits your plan includes for therapy and clarify if there are any out-of-pocket costs. For help with this process, check out our detailed guide here.
How to start looking for a therapist
Step 1 - Identify potential candidates by using online directories: Websites like miresource.com have guided search tools that ask you the most relevant questions to show you options that make sense for your needs at that time. When searching for providers you want to contact, keep in mind the logistics questions and filter your search results.
Step 2 - “Interview” your top candidates: Once you have a shortlist of around 3 providers you like, contact each provider to ask about their availability, fees (whether they accept your insurance), and schedule a brief initial consultation (also called “intake appointments”). Some therapists offer a free initial consultation, which can help you gauge if they’re a good fit. During the initial consultation, pay attention to how you feel about their communication style and whether you can see yourself opening up to them. Take the opportunity to ask some questions:
What is their experience with issues like yours?
What is their approach to therapy?
Are they open to feedback?
Do they provide resources to use outside sessions?
How do they measure progress?
Compatibility is not just about professional expertise but also about personal rapport. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it’s okay to keep looking.
What to expect during your first therapy session
Your first therapy session sets the foundation for your therapeutic journey. Here’s what to expect:
Introduction: Your therapist will likely spend some time getting to know you and discussing what brings you to therapy.
Assessment: They may ask about your history, current situation, and goals for therapy.
Setting the Tone: Discuss how sessions will work, including confidentiality, session length, and any specific concerns you have.
It’s normal to feel nervous during the first session, but remember that this space is for you. Be as open and honest as you can—your therapist is there to help, not judge.
How to know if you're seeing the right therapist
Once you start therapy, you should regularly assess how it’s going. Are you feeling progress? Is your therapist responsive to your needs? Do you feel heard, understood, and respected? Therapy is a collaborative process, and it’s important to communicate openly with your therapist. If something isn’t working, discuss it openly. They can adjust their approach or help you find a better fit if necessary.
Signs of effective therapy include feeling understood, gaining insights, and noticing positive changes in your thoughts and behaviors. The right therapist should help you reach the goals you set for your time in therapy If you think you are not making progress, discuss that openly and talk about what progress means for you. If you feel stuck or not heard, it might be time to reconsider your options.
Remember that this is a journey
Taking the first step towards starting therapy is a courageous and vital move. Choosing the right therapist is a significant step toward improving your mental health. Remember, the journey to mental wellness is personal and unique. Don’t be discouraged by setbacks—finding the right therapist takes time and patience. Your path to healing starts here, and with the right support, you can achieve the mental well-being you deserve.
FAQ’s
How Do I Know if I Need Therapy?
Knowing when to seek therapy often comes down to recognizing changes in your mental and emotional state. If you’re experiencing persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, or anger, struggling to cope with daily life, or noticing a decline in your performance at work or school, therapy might be beneficial.
Therapy is not just for those experiencing severe mental health issues; it’s beneficial for anyone looking to improve their mental well-being, cope with life’s challenges, and foster personal growth. If you’re dealing with a major life change, such as a divorce, loss of a loved one, or job stress, therapy can provide valuable support. Trust your instincts—if you feel overwhelmed, talking to a professional can offer the clarity and guidance you need.
Is Therapy Really Effective?
Yes, therapy is effective for many people. Research consistently shows that therapy can significantly improve mental health outcomes. It helps individuals understand and change their behaviors, develop healthier coping mechanisms, and improve their relationships. The effectiveness of therapy depends on several factors, including the nature of the issues being addressed, the therapist’s skills, and the client’s commitment to the process. While results can vary, many people find therapy to be a transformative experience that offers substantial benefits in their lives. If you’re open and willing to engage in the process, therapy can be a powerful tool for positive change.
Do I Need Counseling or Therapy?
If you’re dealing with a specific issue that requires immediate attention, such as navigating a breakup or career stress, counseling can offer the support you need. It’s typically shorter-term and focused on practical solutions. If you’re looking to address deeper, more complex issues such as chronic anxiety, depression, or past trauma, therapy might be more appropriate. Therapy provides a more comprehensive approach, often involving a longer-term commitment to unravel and understand underlying issues. Consider what you hope to achieve and discuss your goals with a professional to determine the best fit.
Is it Worth it to Do Therapy?
Investing in therapy can be one of the most worthwhile decisions you make. While it can require time, effort, and financial resources, the benefits often far outweigh the costs. Therapy can significantly improve mental health, emotional stability, and quality of life. It helps you develop coping strategies, build resilience, and gain insights into your behaviors and emotions. Many people find that the skills and understanding gained in therapy continue to benefit them long after the sessions have ended. If you’re committed to the process, therapy can provide lasting, positive change.
Written by: Mackenzie Drazan Cook
Medically Reviewed by: Dr. Gabriela Asturias
Last updated: June 27th, 2024
